It is no secret that divorce creates challenges for families with kids, but often it is better than continuing in a relationship that does not work. Helping your kids adjust to a new normal is a top priority as a parent.
Keep the following guidelines in mind to help your children find a new equilibrium and develop a healthy routine.
Allowing time for processing and feeling emotions
Children may feel a range of emotions throughout the divorce process and in the weeks and months following. Normal emotions kids might experience include the following and more:
- Anxiety
- Confusion
- Anger
- Guilt
- Grief
You should make yourself available and listen when your children share their feelings during this time. Avoid making your children feel responsible for your emotions and exercise patience, even if what they share is difficult or painful for you.
Kids generally require some extra attention after a divorce, as their feelings can manifest in various behavioral issues such as isolating themselves, having difficulty focusing or acting out. Consider utilizing a support system by allowing your children to talk and spend time with other friends and family members. Your children’s school may be able to provide resources for counseling and further support.
Talking about and interacting with your ex
Depending on your custody agreement, your ex will have a varying amount of involvement in your children’s lives. When possible, be supportive of your children’s interactions with their other parent. Speak about your ex respectfully and do not involve your children in arguments or disagreements following the divorce.
Creating a healthy and positive family dynamic after a divorce is achievable. While it takes time and patience, you can help your children adjust to the changes in their life and work towards a happier future together.
